The letter my parents will never write to me

Bithi Sumaiya
4 min readJul 1, 2022

But I deeply crave and wish that they would!

So I am doing them and myself a favor. Being proactive and writing it for myself from of course, them.

Bithi Sumaiya, my dear daughter!

This letter is for you in case we forget to say these words to you!

You can do this. You got this.

We all make not so good choices in life. Some choices does go wrong, even when we assume honest, sincere intentions firsthand.

I know I am not very good with words or emotions. I do see the possibilities in you and that’s why I try to push you. I may not be here for you always but I believe in your capabilities. I want the very best for you, always.

I believe in your dreams. And yes, I believe in your ability to make them reality as well. You are not your mistakes, not just your failures. You are way much more than just that. You are strong, you can fight back. You can rise again.

I believe that whatever you are trying to do, despite obstacles and hardships, you will be successful. I am sending all the blessings and permissions you need on your way. I will always be sending those. Never skipping a day.

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My support, my encouragement is always with you. Create your dream life. I believe it’s possible. Every bit of it. I love you. I love all of you. I am not ashamed of you. I am not ashamed for having you.

I am proud of you. Look at you! How far you have come!!

Growing gracefully each day! You will sure go and reach where you want to go and reach as well. You are on your own journey, like everyone else.

Your existence made me believe in miracles. Your existence made me more humble towards god.

You are brilliant. I love and adore my curious daughter. I feel blessed to have you. Got more than I could ever asked for.

You are one with our Great Creator’s spirit. My love for you will never end. It is here, always will be.

I believe in you. I believe that you will make a fine person out of yourself. You have already started making it happen.

Don’t you dare ever feel alone. I am always with you. And we are in this together. We are making it happen together. We are celebrating together; each big and small wins and failures. We are living playfully together; each day. We are living a lifetime together.

My daughter, I am proud of you. Make sure you take the very best care of yourself at all times and at all circumstances. Do you understand? You are very precious to me. Take care of yourself.

I trust you. I believe in you. I pray to God for you, for your well-being. My love and blessings are and will always be with you, wrapping you always in love.

I believe in your ability to make your dreams come true. You are both; smart worker and hard worker. You work hard in smart ways. That’s a gift.

You are loved. You will always be loved. I believe in your ability to make your life a fulfilled one. You can make it. I have seen you doing it countless times before. You can do it again.

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You have a relentless thirst inside yourself. You have a strong spirit that guides you towards creativity. Go on! Keep going…

In my eyes, you were born perfect, my little baby girl. You still are. You are a wonderful human being; growing every day even more.

I am proud of the fact that you never lose hope despite setbacks, my headstrong girl. You get back at life much stronger than ever before. Told you! You got a courageous spirit.

My blessings, enthusiasm and encouragements are always with you; in the journey of finding your soul’s calling.

Don’t hold yourself back. You don’t have to.

It’s time for you to flourish.

Take love always,

Your Parents :)

A bit of context: My parents are awesome human beings. They did the best they could do to raise me up to this point. However, from ‘being there emotionally present for their child’ point of view, in this particular area, they lacked (quite an alarming amount). So emotional connection between us is messed up, a lot. I previously refused to accept this fact and fought so fiercely to make it upside down (based on my limited knowledge). Now that I am doing healing works inside my internal system, I am gradually accepting the truth and not fighting with it unnecessarily. You know, coming to a point, seeing them and also seeing myself as imperfect humans that we actually are! Not forcing perfection.

So I am writing this letter from a point of having the best emotional connection between me and my parents (especially for those times, when I know I am in dire need of some emotional support to pull myself together).

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Bithi Sumaiya

Just an ordinary, fellow human being figuring out how to live and die satisfied - minimizing regrets and maximizing peace.